The fact that it’s not that high, that it’s not one of the main things, is telling. One man put it this way: “I’m usually not looking at weight or fitness or anything like that.
Men certainly are more interested in physical attraction than women are, but I don’t think it’s the only thing they look at.”That being said, Elison does say most men won’t even consider forming a relationship with a woman they aren’t attracted to.
Mormons tend to believe we have our own special brand of happiness that comes from living a devout Mormon life, but our unhappiness seems to come from the same sources as everyone else’s: failure, disappointment, conflict, self-doubt, poor choices, and so forth.
I’m tempted to say that the unhappiness and emotional distance you’re experiencing with the Mormon man you’re dating has more to do with the fact that he is processing the end of a twenty-year marriage than with any particularly Mormon facet of his masculinity.
When men ranked attributes in men, it came in in 14th place, and when women ranked attributes in women, they put it in 13th place.
Yes, We Care About Looks One of the 15 characteristics we asked men and women to rank in importance was physical attraction, and when we averaged the ratings our survey respondents gave to each attribute, “being physically attractive” ended up coming in pretty low on the list—with one exception.