Dating a pastor

It makes for some next-level pillow talk, let me tell you.

Otherwise, we have a relationship that's as normal as they come. I mean, he doesn't even have to shower immediately after sex to wash off the sin, nor does he quote Scripture to random passerby.

Many a man of God has sabotaged his own ministry by sexual sin. “They lay with the women who served at the doorway of the tent of meeting” ().

The Lord had no patience with such antics and put them out of business quickly ().

Often times, parishioners feel they have a right to access you at any time.

Unlike typical eight hour jobs, our professional lives can span from administrative oversight during the day to leading bible study in the evening to weekend leadership retreats or church fairs.

And yet, here I am — a future minister's lady friend. As it turns out, it's actually pretty great dating a future minister.

Seminarians are super intelligent and love having the kinds of deep, philosophical conversations that former liberal arts students like myself also happen to enjoy.

Liberal Christians (they do exist, unlike unicorns) get a raw deal thanks to some particularly insane branches of Christianity. Here's a guide to the 10 most common reactions I get when I tell people "My boyfriend is going to be a minister." Yes. Our entire relationship is just a last ditch effort for him to get in as much sexy time as possible before taking that vow of celibacy. Because of the specific nature of my boyfriend's career path, I'm often met with the assumption that I must be doing the exact same thing with my life.

I’m certain, like me, many have wondered how marriage fits into this already full and exhausting schedule.

In fact, I’ve often pondered if it’s fair to bring someone into my life knowing the nature of my work and the strain it can place on relationships.

But, it wasn’t until my second year of pastoring that I became aware of my loneliness. While sitting in the second chair shielded me from the full burden of the weight of ministry, I still shouldered a great share of the responsibility.

I functioned in strategic planning, curriculum and ministry development and filled-in as the youth pastor.