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Rori Raye says the cactus exudes "masculine energy." It involves over-functioning and constantly trying to move the relationship forward.

The Cactus has her shield up to protect herself from getting hurt, but all the while she's mush on the inside.

She acts like she's OK even when she's not, that she isn't needy, and she can take care of herself, Raye likes to refer to the Goddess as a "reversed bonbon"—soft on the outside and strong on the inside.

This is a woman who is approachable and who can handle her own feelings.

‘Men secretly respect a woman who is strong, has confidence and has dreams of her own.

There’s nothing more attractive to a man than a woman who has dignity and pride in who she is. Ever wondered why, despite putting your best face and foot forward, and treating your dreamboat like a dream, he seems to go for someone smarter, sassier and sexier.

It was translated into 30 languages, dubbed a self-help classic and still sells extremely well.

Now she’s back with a new book that shows women how to transform a casual relationship into a committed one — and the secret lies in ditching the nice girl act and getting tough.‘Bending over backwards does not bring you the love and attention you crave, but having your own life, your own goals and a backbone will,’ says Sherry.

They find it almost impossible to say no—even when saying yes wreaks havoc on their own best-laid plans.What makes someone so anxious to fulfill other people's expectations that they end up sabotaging themselves?The typical people-pleaser is someone who lacks an internal compass to gauge the value of their own actions, explains Linda Tillman, a psychologist at Emory University.If you haven’t had a conversation about exclusivity, you don’t have an exclusive relationship; so doing relationship-y things isn’t appropriate just yet.It doesn’t mean you’ll never have an exclusive relationship, just that you’ve got to slow down and quit acting completely conquered. Do you feel like people are going to hate you if you don’t do what they want?