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Some forums can only be seen by registered members. I dated a newly divorced guy and it was a disaster from the get-go. From a first-hand perspective - when I was newly divorced, all I cared about was having fun and enjoying my new-found freedom.
Well, that is because he wants to be with someone and then something reminds him of what a relationship brings. So this guy may have honestly thought he WAS ready to move on... After divorce, many people are desperate for comfort, for having that cozy couple-y feeling again and to not let the divorce side-track their life.
Consequently, many jump into relationships before they're truly ready, often without even realizing it.
Back in the day, jumping into the dating waters post-divorce wasn't always the easiest (and usually involved one too many awkward set-ups from friends).
Love each other for who you are, not where you've been, but at the same time, be sensitive. Depending on how long he was married, you might find he does things that you find odd or inappropriate. Let him know there are things that may have been okay in his marriage, that are not okay with you.Jennifer's, Samantha's and John's concerns are common, because according to the U. Census Bureau, 19.3 million Americans get divorced each year, and many of them date and eventually remarry.Perhaps you share their concerns, as you're also wondering how you can reenter the dating world after divorce — and do so according to God's standards. Divorce is the death of the dreams you had when you committed yourself "for better or for worse." As a Christian, you can't simply separate from your spouse one day and hit the dating field the next.Continually bringing us his ex will add stress to his life, forcing him to remember things he doesn't wish to. Some women doubt they are good enough, seeing herself and his ex as competitors. You are a person with your own beliefs, perspectives, and opinions, and those things are what attracted him to you.The best way to help him to heal is to enjoy your time together.