Some men will lean heavily on you until his decree absolute is through but once truly free, he will be looking for other women, either just women in general, as many as possible sometimes, or for true "wife material". I don't know why they broke up, but, rest assured, he will be thinking of her, and where she will be going, and with who...
It is usually a minefield and it can all blow up in your face at any time. Cant say too much, as I'm about to go to dinner, so a quick one for you.. Men don't just let go, especially when there's another man involved.
Depending on the nature of the divorce, some may feel as if they'll never remarry or find somebody that will love them again in their life time.
Those nagging doubts can really leave somebody in the dumps over a long period of time if the underlying psychological issues are not immediately addressed.
Makes no difference whether we are separated, as we keep thinking "She's mine".. (Late for dinner) I was completely separated from my wife and the divorce was underway when I started dating again. I treated the women I dated well but I was lonely, depressed, and was using dating to help ease that. I was over my wife and had no intentions of going back to her but I should've been working in myself and my issues and not using dates as a distraction. I thought I'd be able to stay in 'friend' space emotionally with him as lines got crossed and I couldn't.
All this crap has to blow over, and further, the mess of separation. My best advice: walk now before you find yourself caring so much that you can't walk. Since things changed with us, he will rarely talk about his own emotions related to his marriage but it's always there.
You guys were dating in a normalish fashion and then he freaked out and backed way off.
saying he was thinking about what to do about me was a little hurtful and made me feel as if I was a problem he had to deal with. I felt like he was behaving in a way that i would just end things bc he has not done it, but he has constantly pulled back.
He has pulled away several times and last week told me he did love me, that he could see us having a future but that he is scared. I finally reached my breaking point and told him that while I care about him and know he is in a tough spot, that i need more and I just don't think he's in the place to offer that to me.
i have been so anxiety ridden and upset and just would appreciate any advice or clarity.
Shutterstock A couple of days ago a friend and I were discussing another mutual friend–we’ll call her “Roslyn”–who was going through a divorce.