You don’t need to choose if you are going to be friends Women have a far easier time deciding who they want to be just friends with and who they would pursue a romantic relationship with, but men tend to group all women together on the ‘potentially romantic’ side, and then just decide their order of desirability.For this reason, I also believe men try to actually building a friendship with a woman because he doesn’t want to find himself plunging into the dreaded friend zone, and suddenly be seen more as a brother than a potential boyfriend.
Of course, we should consistently try to be these things as often as humanly possible, but the fact of the matter is that we are all going to have bad days. Life throws us curveballs – and expecting a shining exterior every second of every day is not only unrealistic, but it is also dishonest. How are you going to survive your 4-hour drive in the car together? We need this type of comfort to just be able to sit with each other in silence and not feel a nagging urge to say or do something to break the silence. It’s not like you are going to choose a random person off the street – but what’s more is that your friends know how you think and you know how they think.Jerry Seinfeld wisely observed that breaking up with someone was like trying to tip over a soda machine. Someone throws away a prominent career because they have fallen in love (or lust) with someone they shouldn’t. Once it is moving and unstable only then you can push it over. It is difficult to tell another person, “I don’t want a romantic relationship with you.” Hearing it from someone else is clearly worse. The logic usually goes, “I do like her as a person. One night you’re out as friends, you have a couple of drinks, somebody leans in too close, and BAM! Only this situation is much more confusing, hurtful, and sad. It is hard to turn off romantic feelings You see it in the paper every day.It doesn’t matter when you roll over in bed with no makeup on, a fever, and swollen eyes – a will love and take care of you just the same. These questions are never concerns when it comes to spending time with a friend, because it doesn’t matter comfortable in any relationship, no matter how long we are together. This type of comfort only exists when a friendship is built, not when we spend our time trying to impress each other and not showing him or her who we really are. Let’s say, for example, you are invited on to a game show and are required to choose a teammate, but you are not allowed to pick a family member. You can work together and balance out each other’s strengths.Someone who is just in it for the sex or as a fling, will not. You’re getting together with your best friend this weekend – oh no! If this happens, eventually we transition over into complacency, and that is territory which is void of energy, romance, or excitement. The reality of it is that this can be the case in much of life.