“We love our parents so unconditionally when we’re young, and we take in their characteristics without giving it any thought,” says father of two daughters .
“There are all kinds of beautiful women and handsome men in the world, and yet, we don’t feel an emotional attraction to all of them — but there’s a striking similarity between the men that heterosexual women feel intoxicated by and their own fathers.” Psychologist Harville Hendrix calls this composite type of adult we’re attracted to “the Imago,” and it’s what he thinks causes “love at first sight.” That feeling of instant attraction is actually something other than true love; it’s the visceral response to someone who triggers a “lack of completeness” feeling in us — and why we project onto others the fantasy that they can make us feel whole once more. Are you curious to know if the guys you’re attracted to share the same traits as your dad?
The best way to know is by really getting a deeper understanding of their father. Women should also try to list down those paternalistic qualities, both good and bad, about their father.I can absolutely assure you that I am not."Hewitt chose an interview in the Sunday Mirror to put on record for the first time his denial of the persistent rumours.He said: "I can understand the interest but Harry was already walking by the time my relationship with Diana began."Hewitt added: "Admittedly the red hair is similar to mine and people say we look alike."I have never encouraged these comparisons and although I was with Diana for a long time I must state once and for all that I'm not Harry's father."When I first met Diana, Harry was already a toddler."Referring to portraits by fashion photographer Mario Testino taken to mark the Prince's 18th birthday a week ago, Hewitt said: "Looking at the pictures I have to say he's a much more handsome chap than I ever was."Hewitt added: "I have been aware for a while that the issue of Harry's paternity has been a major talking point."But he said he did not meet the Princess, who died in 1997, until two years after Harry was born.Am I looking for a father figure in these men I get attracted to? If you recognize that being somewhat fearful is related to your attraction to older men, then I’d recommend counseling to sort out those feelings.The attraction to older men can create problems for you as .