Meeting someone on the internet – whether through social media, online dating sites, gaming sites or other forums – and developing an online relationship has become very common, and it’s a perfectly valid type of relationship.But just like any other kind of relationship, online relationships can be healthy, unhealthy or abusive.Three chances to give it a shot before she made a judgement about whether or not she liked online dating. Rather than meeting good matches, she found herself with people she would never have decided to go out with if she had met them in person first, because they had nothing in common. Something about the context of online dating platforms just didn’t click with her.
“It’s not just that you’re communicating with someone online but that there is a sexual or emotional nature,” says Katherine Hertlein, Ph D, an associate professor at the University of Nevada in Las Vegas who studies online affairs.Still, with so many other people in their twenties on dating apps, she figured she might as well give online dating a chance.She created an account on Ok Cupid and set a challenge for herself: she would go on three dates. She actually did go on a date with a guy she met on Twitter through a mutual friend, and she met and bonded with one of her current friends through Words With Friends.That’s what brought her to the Venngage headquarters on a Wednesday evening in January. A study with the potential for love at the end of it. Surprisingly, the very thing she had decided not to do anymore–talk to a stranger she was matched with online with the purpose of falling in love. She was going to use a “love hack” to make a connection. The article presented a quiz comprised of 36 questions that supposedly lead to love–or, at least, an accelerated feeling of intimacy between strangers.The idea was that if you sat down with a perfect stranger and exchanged these 36 questions, you would have shared enough intimate information with them to create a feeling of closeness in just one conversation.