The false premise here is that a Christian and a non-Christian will necessarily be going in opposite directions.We have many Christian friends whose spouses and partners are incredibly supportive of their faith and work to edify it, even if they don’t share it.
But when we announced our engagement I received a few emails from the pastor saying the Bible is clear that the relationship is wrong and that I need to end it. I knew that, out of love, I would receive some hostility from Christian friends, but it is getting to the point where I do not want to go back to church, because of the volume of people telling me to end the relationship—when they cannot give me a reason for doing so, other than him being a non-Christian. I was overwhelmed with joy, laughter, and excitement.
The truth is, when it comes to dating and relating, there really are very few black and white answers.
Many times the answers lie in the gray areas, and in the deeper questions. If you’re afraid this new romance will have a major effect on the relationship you have with your friend, you may feel confused, disappointed and frustrated. Figuring out where the dislike is coming from is a good place to start and it can help you know how to pray for the situation and respond to it.
It’s perfectly healthy to forgive, but it’s not OK to be unwise.
When it comes to making up, don’t misunderstand me.