It's not cheap for us to love someone, and we're often fearful of attaching value to mere "feelings" in case they turn out to be fleeting.Most INTJs won't admit to caring for someone until they are completely sure it's genuine.We can be so matter-of-fact and hard-headed that it's difficult to imagine us doing something as frivolous as falling in love. We know that we're pretty darned outstanding as relationship material, just too awkward to play the dating game. INTJs inhabit a world that resembles Downton Abbey - cold on the outside, but there's always something spicy percolating beneath.Problem is, we have not yet developed any sort of vocabulary to describe what's going on in our hearts.This means that both ENFPs and INTJs not only perceive the world through intuition, they also have a common feeling and thinking function, although in a separate order.Where the ENFP will have a higher knowledge and awareness of his/her own emotions and values, the INTJ will have a higher awareness of the logical approach and efficient task completion.At the same time, INFJs also like to assume the best and can be extremely gullible.
This lack of vocabulary can make other people feel incredibly insecure.There is only committed or uninterested and seldom a middle ground.In studying the male INTJs I know, all of them met their life partner later in life, after the full force of their individual vision had come to the fore.If you look at the cognitive function image, you can see that INTJs use Fi in the tertiary position, only one step down from the ENFPs position.The same goes for Extraverted Thinking, the ENFP has Te in the tertiary position, only one step down from the INTJs Te. INTJs and ENFPs are going to hit it off and experience a natural spark because they will both live and thrive in the world of ideas, possibilities and meanings.