Very rarely was anything of substance shared there and more or less, everyone had the same opportunity to meet and connect with others.The interactions were unique because of the anonymity given by using My Space. Chertorofsky I am a single widowed man age 49 who has met some personable, attractive women on ) because so many profiles that I have seen are poorly constructed and not thoughtfully put together.Which is why I feel compelled to tell my story of what NOT to write in order to find a mate -- or just a date. Look happy, look fun, look exotic if you want, but the picture you post should be engaging and reflect you. Sometimes the pictures people put up look like they just came out of prison.I know it’s tough out there, and I know, it’s easier for men than women. Take it for what’s it worth -- free advice from one on the other end. First, ignore any overture that isn't polite and genuine and well-written. That's just some lazy slob who probably can’t write or has decided you are not worth the time to write. Second: Put some honest effort into picking your pictures. If you can't take or own three nice, normal pictures of yourself, then either you have no friends or you’re just lazy or you don't care. I auto skip anyone with only one picture no matter how beautiful. Also be honest -- don’t post pictures that will disappoint in real life. Don't put up three photos where you look great and one photo where you look like you slept with pigs in a haystack the whole night with the caption..." I slept in a haystack all night!Which is why -- I have a sister after all -- I want to be honest about what works and what doesn’t from a guy who genuinely likes women. I skip anyone whose photo is of them standing in the bathroom shooting themselves in the mirror with their i Phone. When people see you in person they should be thinking that you are as lovely as your picture -- or even lovelier. "I think its cool (sort of) you slept in a hay stack, but if you look like crap in the picture, I'm going to assume that you will look like crap if we ever end up in the haystack together. Do not write “I am a sexually confident woman” unless you want to be with guys who are submissive or guys who think they are more sexually confident and can’t wait to show you. Write what YOU want, not what you think someone else wants. Rather than opting for the expected dinner out, try staying in and cooking your own meal together. Check out local cooking classes in your area rather than opening up your home to a stranger.As history has it, when people defected from My Space to Facebook, that online community became a dust town.Dating sites like Ok Cupid and Plenty of Fish (POF) became more popular.
You were defined by how cool your My Space layout was – animated GIFs, custom CSS and your favorite embedded You Tube video.After the fall of My Space, I eventually created my Ok Cupid account.I really got into the quizzes that members could take. Ok Cupid prides themselves on the ability to match people based on responses to their surveys.I recoil even from the word “date,” let alone the concept of possibly beginning a romantic relationship. I have an almost perfect life, even though I’ve been single since my last long-term boyfriend and I broke up four years ago.I really do, insofar as that is possible in this vale of tears — a cherished family, a grandchild, church, career, sobriety, two dogs, daily hikes, naps, perfect friends.