We don’t spend time developing a friendship, which ” And sure, it’ll last a while, but those feelings will always fade (in typically 3–6 months).
When those feelings fade, men and women will jump from relationship to relationship to get that next “emotional high,” never truly understanding what commitment and sacrifice really look like.
The reason for this is everyone’s looking for the person that’s going to make them happier than anyone else in the world. 1) Clearly, happiness and feelings are crucial, but they aren’t the point.
They’re like the icing on the cake, but not the substance that gives it structure.
Whether it’s where I’m eating, where I’m traveling or, God forbid, something I’m buying, like a lot of people in my generation—those in their 20s and 30s—I feel compelled to do a ton of research to make sure I’m getting every option and then making the best choice.
If this mentality pervades our decisionmaking in so many realms, is it also affecting how we choose a romantic partner?
We also found that those who were living together—compared to dating and not living together—were more likely to report that their relationship experienced physical aggression within the prior year.
Shifting from a “dating” to a “courtship” mindset can help single adults achieve greater happiness, too.
What’s the difference between dating and courtship?
True love is choosing someone over your own selfish desires, even when you don’t feel it.
When you’d rather strangle them for months on end, but instead make a choice each day to love them in spite of their glaring flaws and annoyances.